Tips For Cunnilingus – Oral Sex For The Ladies
While I was looking through my daily feedly, I came across an article, Keys to Terrific Cunnilingus, by Michael Castleman, M.A.. You know I love blogging about sex education and awareness. So quite naturally my brain turns on (literally).
What is cunnilingus? I really like the definition Abiola Abrams used in her article, What Is Cunnlingus, And…Is It Fun?:
Cunnilingus is a sexual act where a woman’s genital area is stimulated by her partner’s lips, mouth and tongue. “Cunnilingus” is derived from two Latin words; “cunnus” meaning vulva (hello lady parts!) and “lingua” which means tongue. The big word basically describes oral sex performed on a woman for the purpose of sexual pleasure.
The vulva includes:
• The outer and inner vaginal lips.
• The clitoris, nestled under the upper junction of the vaginal lips.
• The vaginal opening.
• And the erotically sensitive groove between the clitoris and vagina, the urethral sponge.
Basic cunnilingus involves licking the vulva from the vaginal opening, across the sponge, and up to the clitoris, and possibly inserting the tongue into the vagina. As women become sexually aroused, their outer vaginal lips fill with extra blood, which parts them somewhat, exposing the inner lips and the sensitive tissue between them.
Then he give some fine tips and pointers for giving the gift (if you say) -
Begin slowly—and as gently as you can. Start by kissing her inner thighs and the area around her vulva. Anticipation of cunnilingus can feel very arousing.
Then lick the fleshy outer lips. Next, work your tongue in between the outer lips to caress the inner lips. Then circle the vaginal opening and perhaps insert your tongue inside. Eventually move up to the clitoris.
Alternate using the tip of your tongue, the flat of it, and your lips as you explore her vulva.
Combine licking with finger and palm massage. After circling her vulva with your tongue, do the same with a finger or two, using light, moderate, or deep pressure, as the woman prefers. Use your fingers to gently part her lips, and if she’s okay with it, insert one or two. Massage her inner thighs.
Instead of steady tongue pressure on the clitoris or swirling moves around it, use the tip of your tongue to tease just the underside of the clitoral shaft with light little licks about once every 10 to 15 seconds. This move helps some women get over the hump to orgasm.